Fear is real.
It's there to protect us from dangerous things like dark alleys and sketchy strangers, which is a good thing, but sometimes it can hold us back and tell us that things outside our comfort zone are also danergous to our well being, like public speaking or sparking up a conversation. Thanks to this part of fear, we may avoid situations and opportunities because the feeling of fear can be so overwhelming.
Like I said, fear is real.
But once I realized that I had a choice to either sit in fear and let it hold me back or feel the fear and continue anyway, the way I approached my life, dreams, and goals changed.
"Your fear should always be allowed to have a voice, and a seat in the vehicle of your life. But whatever you do — don't let your fear DRIVE." - Elizabeth Gilbert
Soo a few weeks ago I went back to my high school and spoke to my whole school.
I'm not going to lie, before I did it, the thought of public speaking was extremely scary for me. Yes, it was even scarier and left me more anxious than playing on the biggest world stage at the 2016 Olympics did. I prepared for the 2016 Olympics for four years, but public speaking... it was going to be my first time ever and I hadn't done much preparation.
I thought to myself "what am I going to say?" "Will they listen?" "Will what I say even resonate with them" "What if I don't even make sense. What if nothing even comes out my mouth?" "Should I remember a speech?" "Should I right something down?"
I knew what it was like to sit in those bleachers during assemblies in high school. We were a tough crowd to amuse at 9am in the morning.
But, even after knowing all that, I felt the fear and did it anyways. I spoke from the heart and I can't explain how much I enjoyed the experience and how proud I was of myself for just going for it.
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"I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it." - Nelson Mandela
Once I adopted this idea about fear that's how PROCEED WITH COURAGE was born.
Whenever I feel fear, I choose to continue and I make the choice to proceed with courage instead, because that's what achieving great things takes. Courage. Courage to push past all the doubts, fears, uncertainty and limiting beliefs floating around in my head and do that things that scares me.
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To tie everything together, what I am writing was sparked by an article that I read this week by Cole Jamieson called, Don't Let Fear Hold You Back, and called me to share my experience and views.
Here is the blurb that I related to and left me smiling like, "yes! Exactly!!"
Don’t let fear hold you back.
Such a simple idea that I hadn’t given much thought, but had heard many times. Once I realized how deep this went into day to day decision making I started seeing a dramatic difference in how I approached things. I made a conscious decision to change my perspective while seeing the challenges before me and saying "I’m doing it anyway”.
This has lead to new opportunities and doors opening that I never knew existed. Once I was truly out of my comfort zone I realised that I had been missing out on these opportunities and didn’t want to miss out on any more.
Some truths about fear from Susan Jeffers
FEAR TRUTH #1: The fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow!
Every time you take a step into the unknown, you experience fear. There is no point in saying, "When I am no longer afraid, then I will do it." You'll be waiting for a long time. The fear is part of the package.
FEAR TRUTH #2: The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and…do it!
When you do it often enough, you will no longer be afraid in that particular situation. You will have faced the unknown and you will have handled it. Then new challenges await you, which certainly add to the excitement in living.
FEAR TRUTH #5: Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the bigger underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness!
This is the one truth that some people have difficulty understanding. When you push through the fear, you will feel such a sense of relief as your feeling of helplessness subsides. You will wonder why you did not take action sooner. You will become more and more aware that you can truly handle anything that life hands you.
- "We surmount fears all the time. Many of us are scared to fly but do it because the joy of arriving at the desired destination is worth the struggle through the flight. Isn’t that usually the case with fear, and with those things we’re afraid to change? The outcome is worth the fight to get there." Via HuffPost article
- You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. -Eleanor Roosevelt
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